What Two Years of Driving Taught Me

Hello, loves! I recently upgraded to a Competent Driving License (CDL) after passing my Probationary Driving License (PDL) back in 2022. To some, that might not seem like such a big deal, but for me, it was a huge moment!

I've spent so much time putting off learning to drive, plagued with anxiety and self-doubt. I'm not sure if it was the fear of being judged or just not feeling ready, but I procrastinated on what I now know is such an essential life skill. But here we are – two years later, I finally have my CDL! It took a lot of patience, a couple of bumps along the way, and a lot of learning, not just about the skill itself but about life in general.

And while I'm still a little bit anxious behind the wheel (okay, maybe a lot), I've learned a thing or two about driving that go beyond just steering the car. If you're an anxious driver like me, you might relate to some of these lessons. And maybe they'll help you too!

Always stay calm

I know it's easier said than done, especially when you're an anxious driver like me. But seriously, nothing good comes from stressing out or getting road rage. Lately, I've realized that driving is kind of like meditation. Panicking doesn't help; it just makes the ride longer.

Patience is everything

Driving, especially on crazy busy roads, is a test of patience. Getting worked up or irritated won't get you anywhere (except maybe closer to a headache). Now, I try to take deep breaths and remind myself that everything has its own pace. I've even started doing breathing exercises in the car when things get tense. It helps, and it's way better than stressing out.

People will always judge

It's inevitable – there will always be someone ready to judge you for how you drive. I remember feeling so self-conscious about it when I first got my license. But honestly, does it really matter? What matters is that I'm driving responsibly and enjoying the journey (without getting into trouble, of course). So, let them judge.

Don’t drive in a bad mood

If you're in a bad mood, do yourself a favor – don't drive! I've made that mistake a couple of times, and let me tell you, it doesn't end well. Whether it's the tiniest annoyance or a big frustration, driving when you're upset is like asking for trouble. Just wait until you're calm to hit the road.

Give yourself plenty of time

When I first started driving, even with my license in hand, I was terrified to get behind the wheel. The idea of driving anywhere felt like a big deal. But over time, I learned to take things slowly. I started with short trips around the neighborhood, gradually increasing the distance. Confidence builds at its own pace – just like how a plant needs time to grow.

When in doubt, always stop

If you're unsure about something – whether it's an unfamiliar intersection or whether that light is about to turn red – just stop. It's okay. There's no rush to make decisions on the spot, and when you're doubting yourself, it's better to pause and think it through. No harm in being cautious.

Everyone makes mistakes

We all think we're perfect drivers, but guess what? Nobody is. We all make mistakes, whether it's missing a turn, being in the wrong lane, or accidentally not yielding (oops). The key is to own it, laugh it off, and move on. After all, nobody's perfect, and sometimes our mistakes are the best learning opportunities.

Having someone you trust in the passenger seat is important

I know driving solo is part of the process, but there's something so calming about having someone trustworthy with you in the car. For me, that person is my partner, Adan. He's always been there to calm me down, take care of the small things so I can focus on the road, and remind me that it's okay to make mistakes. (Plus, he's always got snacks... so that's a win.)

Stay true to yourself

You don't have to prove anything to anyone when you're driving. Don't let other people's driving habits make you feel like you need to keep up or show off. Do what's best for you, and stick to your own pace.

Trust your instincts and stay aware

Driving is full of surprises, and sometimes the other drivers are unpredictable. I've learned to trust my instincts when it comes to making decisions on the road. My anxiety might be a little extra sometimes, but it helps me keep my head on a swivel – like a hawk – so I can avoid those "oops" moments. Better safe than sorry, right?

What lesson has driving taught you?